Money is a powerful tool. In the proper hands it can provide countless opportunities for good for the family and for others. Without training, its use can be destructive and debilitating to the family.
A eulogy is a forward looking statement that defines how you want to be remembered in life. It usually focuses on the character qualities you hope others will see and recognize in your life. Write your eulogy.
A financially wealthy individual once defined success to me as, “Having a job you love and a warm home for your family.” Loving families and the concept of home are not obtained by material wealth. They are created by love.
The ability to persevere through trials produces character and self confidence. Trials are often the foundation of the success one has today. The knowledge gained in these trials is what parents wish they could give their children.
Sharing your life experiences mentors future generations within your own family as well as others. Your triumphs, failures and humorous encounters illustrate important lessons others can use to navigate their way through the adventures of their own life.
When they asked, “Why?” we explained to them in scientific terms why the rain fell, the sky was blue or where waves came from, etc. With older kids, we encouraged them to investigate for themselves. The DK Guides to scientific subjects are wonderful. STEM (Science, Technology, Engineering and Math) abilities are increasingly important today and you can give your kids a head start.
Children need time to think, to dream and explore, so we provided for that. We limited organized activities like sports and lessons. We also limited screen time. We made sure our kids had time to play and explore on their own. Even preschoolers need thirty-minute periods of quiet time to play with blocks or look at picture books.
Childhood failure to control temper will lead to yelling and violence, resulting in the loss of friends. Uncontrolled anger as an adult leads to physical abuse, the dissolution of marriages and loss of jobs. Anger control is learned gradually, but you’ve got to start teaching it early. Starting in toddlerhood, I didn’t reinforce tantrums with my attention. That came when the tantrum ended.
Praise your kids for their good behavior and choices. Your approval makes it more likely they’ll do the same thing next time. Especially when a rule was new, we praised our kids when they followed it. Your child doesn’t need a treat or any reward for doing the right thing. Your approval is all they really want.
Love is conveyed in many ways, but a key one is through touch. Babies who aren’t handled don’t thrive. From the time they were babies, we gave our children lots of holding, cuddle time, and physical playtime. We still give hugs and kisses to our adult children. They never outgrow their need for our physical affection.